March 31, 2011 § 8 Comments
This is our friend Mike.
Mike is a construction contractor. While at our local yesterday, Mike mentioned that work was slow. Hubby mentioned he took the week off and we have a “little” project we’d like to get started on.
After another round, we all came back here to look at this.
Yay! I LOVE our friend Mike. 😀
March 29, 2011 § 5 Comments
Last week I wrote a post about how a happy marriage takes work, commitment, patience, forgiveness and isn’t just a matter of luck.
And as if Hubby set out to prove the point for me, today I found…
My man…who took the week off to make up for being gone for 10 days, donning his World of Warcraft iron on t-shirt (that he made himself), had set to work about the house doing manly and husbandly things.
Like cutting drywall to finish off the basement stairs. In just a couple of hours he went from, “Today, I’m finishing the stairs”, to the hardware store, hauled two boards into the house and set to work cutting out what he needed…
16 years ago, I would have yelled at Hubby about how careless and thoughtless he was being.
8 years ago, I would have sighed and wondered if he would ever change and how long I could stand it.
Today, I laughed and said, “It looks good. Thank you for taking care of that. Just wondering though, did you even try looking for an old sheet or drop cloth?”
Meanwhile I was imagining what colour of new bath towels to get.
Yep, happy marriages take work.
March 28, 2011 § 4 Comments
I’ve recently been honoured by Bernie @ One Mixed Bag with…
“The Incredibly Sweet Blog Award“…the text is hard to read but the pic says it all. 😀
Okay, so now I share 5 random facts about myself…
1) I believe dragonflies are sentient creatures. Seriously, let one land on you and look it in the face. It’s wonderfully creepy.
2) I’d be living in the woods right now if only…if, you know…”Hey Hon! Why can’t we live in the woods?”
3) I have size 10 feet. (What? You said random. 😉 )
4) I think that our children are born smarter than we are and it’s our arrogance that dumbs them down.
5) I know that kindness matters more than anything else.
In keeping with the rules of the award, I pass it along to the following 5 bloggers…
Thank you Bernie for thinking of me, it’s nice to be thought of as sweet. 😀
March 24, 2011 § 6 Comments
As always, much thanks go to Cate @ Moments of Whimsy for hosting Project 2011 and for being the glue that is holding us all together. 😀
This week though, I want to deviate a little from my goals. Hubby has just returned from a ten day business trip. Being as it was the longest he’s been away in our entire marriage and that I was doing double duty in every respect, needless to say, I found it difficult to think about my own personal goals.
However, it has come up a few times during the week that some single friends have said, “You’re so lucky to have Hubby.” Immediately I was struck by the irony that they would offer such an observation while he wasn’t actually around.
And though I do feel fortunate to be married to such a wonderful man, I do get a little irked by the implication that a solid 16 year marriage just somehow got printed out like an instant lotto ticket.
A happy marriage is a choice that is made every single day, sometimes every hour and minute. There is a lot involved in sustaining a marriage, even more in making it thrive. Patience, tolerance, understanding, communication, forgiveness, honesty and openess. Luck has nothing to do with it.
Too many single, never been married, women believe in a Cinderella scenario. They think that their Prince Charming and happily ever after will come with no assembly required. When things go wrong, instead of trying to change themselves and/or the situation, they just try to exchange the Prince.
And call those of us willing to trust, believe in and attempt to work things out with a man, lucky.
Does that sound bitter?
March 23, 2011 § 4 Comments
Hubby was actually about ten hours late getting home.
Problems with the plane in Victoria led to him missing his connection in Calgary…yadda, yadda. He got home about 1:00 this morning and by then I was asleep.
Daughter and I snuggled in my bed around 11:00 pm to wait for him but I kept dozing off. She was still up when he got home and they spent some time together before she finally went to bed.
I woke up around 2:30 am and Hubby was just sitting in bed beside me watching t.v.
It was weird and wonderful all at the same time and I leapt on him, kissing and hugging him to make sure I wasn’t just dreaming.
But I was so tired by then that all I could do was follow up with some niceties about his trip and ask him whether or not he saw Daughter. He said he had. Then I rolled over and asked, “You going to work tomorrow?” He said he wasn’t and I replied, “Good, see you in the morning then” and went back to sleep.
So, that’s what you get from 16 years of marriage…10% romance and 90% mundane.
Hubby’s home and I’ll take it any day!
March 22, 2011 § 4 Comments
Eager to get my running around done, I left immediately after finishing my last post. I was gone about an hour and a half. When I returned, the following message was in my inbox…
“Plane broke. Still on ground in Victoria. New one will be here in about an hour.”
SENT 10:50 am (my time)
That means Hubby is delayed by an hour and a half and will miss his connecting flight in Calgary. I have no idea how soon he can get another one and that’s the last I heard from him. *sigh*
In the meantime, Daughter and I kept ourselves busy with this…
This not knowing sucks way worse than the entire ten days he’s been gone put together. At least then I was secure in how long we’d be apart, knew that he was working and busy and had some idea of when he’d be home.
Now, it’s all up in the air (pun not intended) and he’s stuck at some airport just waiting to get home. Okay, it’s much worse for him…but that doesn’t make me feel better.
March 22, 2011 § 2 Comments
I know it probably means very little to you folks out there in blogland but to me and Daugther the fact that Hubby just boarded his plane in Victoria, means EVERYTHING.
He has about an hour jaunt to Calgary – minimum layover, woohoo – then four more hours until he arrives home around 3:30pm. Of course for him, it’s only going to feel like noonish.
Good! He’ll need the extra energy. 😉
Anyway, I’m singing and dancing my way through my last minute chores today trying (not terribly hard) to contain my excitement. Daughter says I’m officially overexcited.
I don’t think I’ve ever been this happy to change linen and scrub toilets. 😀
March 21, 2011 § 7 Comments
As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I wasn’t looking forward to today. Despite it being the first day of Spring here, Hubby’s absence and his can’t-come-soon-enough homecoming preoccupy my thoughts. Only 27 hours more to go.
I’ve been fortunate in that the timing (March Break and BF’s Birthday) made for lots of distracting activity and I really didn’t have too much time to get too lonesome. Still, I knew today would be the kicker and I set out to make it as positive as possible.
That it is until about 7 1/2 minutes after I woke up and noticed this…
I actually sobbed a little…okay, I freakin’ cried. Yesterday the walkway and driveway were clear. Yesterday I spent 40 minutes clearing a path to the deck and then scraping snow off the deck so I could sit out there on nice days…like YESTERDAY.
I decided to go out sooner rather than later to run my errands. The snow was supposed to turn to rain (and it has) and that’s just yucky driving conditions. So out I went and spent 20 minutes in the wet snow brushing 5cm of it off the car and asking myself the old standby, “Why do I live here?”
The trip was slow but uneventful, I learned how to drive in the winter and I think that helps, and I returned home safely just under an hour after I left.
Here’s the random act of kindness part…
In my mailbox was a package. I knew what it was, I smiled a happy six year old grin and opened it before I took my coat or boots off…sitting on the bench in the front hall.
Lookit what Bernie @ One Mixed Bag (I’ve linked to her Card Hop page) sent me!!!! Aren’t they lovely? I’m so in love with the vintage images and Bernie’s subtle embellishments are awesome. I’ve already decided that a couple of them are going into frames instead of envelopes. 😀
This random act of kindness couldn’t have come at a better time. I really was feeling very low before I got her package. Whether it’s coincidence or divine intervention doesn’t matter, I’m just so grateful to Bernie for her thoughtfulness and generosity.
She truly made my day.
March 20, 2011 § 6 Comments
Yep, I’m resorting to the old toddler stand by for marking days – counting down the sleeps. It sounds a little childish sure, but it does work to ease the growing impatience that swells in my chest.
Weird that eh, the closer it gets to him coming home the more I find myself missing him. You’d think I’d be trying to cram in as much freedom and independence in as possible…nope, the novelty has long since worn off of that.
Cute story though – Yesterday I was driving home with Daughter and her friends whom we had just picked up. We passed a cute young man and I made a comment and then laughed at myself, “Sheesh, Hubby’s only been gone a week and already I’m noticing cute guys.”
The girls chuckled and then, as if she were counting the seconds for the perfect delivery, Daughter quipped, “I’m watching you.” We’ll if a car had aisles we all would have been rolling in them. Daughter – a comedian in the making for sure.
Well, that’s it. Busy day today then nothing tomorrow (which is sort of a relief, we’ve been go, go, go all week) and then Hubby’s home on Tuesday.
March 18, 2011 § 4 Comments
Hubby’s been gone six days now and will be back in four. Yay!!!!!!!!
I think it’s really helped that it’s March Break up here. Daughter has been spending a lot of time with her friends, who would normally be in school, which has allowed for more me time than I usually get even when Hubby’s around.
It’s certainly helped that the weather has warmed enough to melt much of the snow and everyday I can see a little more grass. Yesterday morning I looked out the kitchen window and could see my Gnomes, finally uncovered by the warmth.
The weekend is all about BF’s birthday on Sunday and tomorrow her two teenage daughters are coming over to bake a cake and make handmade cards for her. Should be fun. Then on Sunday it’s over to BF’s place to deliver said cake and celebrate.
Hubby arrives home on Tuesday afternoon and I’ll be spending the day getting the house and a meal ready for his return. So really, it’s just getting through Monday that’ll be a little tough.