Project 2011 – Week Twelve
March 24, 2011 § 6 Comments
As always, much thanks go to Cate @ Moments of Whimsy for hosting Project 2011 and for being the glue that is holding us all together. 😀
This week though, I want to deviate a little from my goals. Hubby has just returned from a ten day business trip. Being as it was the longest he’s been away in our entire marriage and that I was doing double duty in every respect, needless to say, I found it difficult to think about my own personal goals.
However, it has come up a few times during the week that some single friends have said, “You’re so lucky to have Hubby.” Immediately I was struck by the irony that they would offer such an observation while he wasn’t actually around.
And though I do feel fortunate to be married to such a wonderful man, I do get a little irked by the implication that a solid 16 year marriage just somehow got printed out like an instant lotto ticket.
A happy marriage is a choice that is made every single day, sometimes every hour and minute. There is a lot involved in sustaining a marriage, even more in making it thrive. Patience, tolerance, understanding, communication, forgiveness, honesty and openess. Luck has nothing to do with it.
Too many single, never been married, women believe in a Cinderella scenario. They think that their Prince Charming and happily ever after will come with no assembly required. When things go wrong, instead of trying to change themselves and/or the situation, they just try to exchange the Prince.
And call those of us willing to trust, believe in and attempt to work things out with a man, lucky.
Does that sound bitter?